Monday, November 14, 2011

Feeding the Fire With a Mixed Tape

A story doesn't just happen; a story unfolds. The choices we make along the way determine our path, and even then we only see what's right in front of us. The companions we choose to accompany us on our journey is what makes our story. They are there to keep us moving when we don't want to take one more step. They are there to encourage us when we fall and then offer a hand to help us up. They distract us with wonderful moments of happiness when our focus becomes tainted and gloomy. I would never want to walk this life alone and I am so blessed that I don't have to. I have been given a beautiful gift and I will always cherish it. Thank you God for my loving husband, my best friend, my companion in life.

Is it an easy journey? Heck no!

Mariage is tough. I can't tell you why two first-born, stubborn-headed, crazy-freaks work, but somehow we do. I don't have a magical answer, a big revelation, a go-to method of how marriage is supposed to be, but I do know our story and what works for us. We know how to laugh together and we know how to cry together. We know how to fight and we know how to make things right. We can be silly and we can be serious. We talk. We make-time for each other and we take-time away from each other. We are honest. We fail and we are okay with that...when it comes to realizing our humanity. We fail and we don't settle for it...we strive to be better. We take time to show our love in the small things. A kiss, an affirmation, a selfless act of kindess when you don't feel like it, an "I'm sorry."

It's always a good idea to make a mixed tape cd for your wife who is waiting in the car pissed at you. The CD goes in, the smile creeps up and before you know it she is allowing you to use your charm once again. You have taken her out of her mood long enough to say "I'm sorry."

It's the small moments, the day-to-day affirmations that keep us confident in love. For the fire to stay alive, you have to feed it.

I don't know what lies ahead for us, but I do know that hand-in-hand the journey will be great. The end of our story is a mystery and I think that's what makes it so beautiful!

I love you babe, here's to the next twelve years! I love you and thank you for my mixed tape cd!


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14 comments:

  1. Great post Linsey, it makes me miss my husband as he is out of town hunting for the week. And it gives me a good idea for a small gift...

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  2. You sound like you have a very special marriage. Thanks for your honesty.

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  3. Oh my goodness.... how sweet of Erik!!! Such a GREAT blog - as always :).

    xoxo

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  4. I enjoy hearing women praise and enjoy their husbands instead of speaking (writing) negatively about them. This was a refreshing read. Thank you! Following from BloggyMoms

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  5. Interesting post. Hoping that you will continue posting an article having a useful information. Thanks a lot!

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  6. I love your advice, "We take time to show our love in the small things. A kiss, an affirmation, a selfless act of kindess when you don't feel like, an 'I'm sorry'." We do the same and it's such a wonderful marriage. Like the Sara Evans song says, "And I could not ask for more."

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  7. Found your blog on blogfrog.

    Love your use of words and that there really are other woman out there who cherish their husbands!!

    (Apparently, all wives are not like us)

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  9. Really a great post.I liked it and i will share it with others too.

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  10. Hopping over from Aisle to Aloha! Awwww... what a cute story! Sounds like you and the hubs have quite a good thing going. :)

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  11. I can relate to this post. My fiance is the biggest goofball, but also the sweetest man I know. It's the little ways he shows me he loves me that melt my heart.

    Relationships are hard work! We've been together 6 years. It's most definitely the day-to-day affirmations that keep the fire lit between us.

    Stopping by from It's The Little Things linkup!

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  12. You guys are PERFECT for each other!!! Such a good-lookin' couple too. ;) What a great gift that Erik gave you. He must REEEEALLY love you!!! ;) SO sweet. :)

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  13. This was great! Easy to take for granted the ways our husbands love us and glad you stopped to express how you're not. Thanks so much for sharing!

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